Violence Against Women Coalinga CA

Remember: Domestic violence can happen in any type of relationship, income level, environment or culture. Common myths associated with domestic and intimate partner violence include as follows.

Gary Michael Pohlson
23151 MOULTON PKWY STE 102
LAGUNA HILLS, CA
Specialties
Criminal Defense, Violent Crime, White Collar Crime, DUI, Administrative Law
Education
University of California at Los Angeles School of Law,Santa Clara University
State Licensing
California

John Patrick Dolan
45915 OASIS ST
INDIO, CA
Specialties
DUI, Speeding Ticket, Domestic Violence, Violent Crime, Criminal Defense
Education
Western State University College of Law,California State University Fullerton
State Licensing
California

Allison Brandi Margolin
8484 WILSHIRE BLVD STE 660
BEVERLY HILLS, CA
Specialties
Criminal Defense, DUI, Sexual Harassment, Violent Crime
State Licensing
California

Steve Robert Balash Jr
1215 DE LA VINA ST
SANTA BARBARA, CA
Specialties
Criminal Defense, Violent Crime, General Practice
Education
United States Naval Academy,University of San Diego
State Licensing
California

Richard Dean Kaplan
(310) 557-0007
9454 Wilshire Blvd Ste 500
Beverly Hills, CA
Specialties
Criminal Defense, DUI, Federal Crime, Violent Crime, White Collar Crime
Education
Pepperdine Univ SOL,Univ of California Santa Barbara
State Licensing
California

Robert Francis Landheer
924 ANACAPA ST STE 1T
SANTA BARBARA, CA
Specialties
Criminal Defense, Domestic Violence, Violent Crime, Appeals
Education
New College School of Law of California,Oberlin College
State Licensing
California

Charles David Eyster
(707) 468-9271
445 N State St
Ukiah, CA
Specialties
Criminal Defense, Litigation, Violent Crime, Federal Crime, DUI, Juvenile
Education
Willamette Univ COL,Univ of California Santa Barbara
State Licensing
California

Shaffer Timothy Cormell
(760) 922-5051
1130 W Hobson Way, Suite 101
Blythe, CA
Specialties
Criminal Defense, Violent Crime, Speeding Ticket, DUI, Domestic Violence, Constitutional
Education
Simon Greenleaf School of Law - Trinity University Law School,Lee University
State Licensing
California

Michael Francis Currier
420 EXCHANGE STE 270
IRVINE, CA
Specialties
Violent Crime, Domestic Violence, Federal Crime, DUI, Juvenile
State Licensing
California

Paul Louis John Takakjian
(866) 351-7899
11845 W OLYMPIC BLVD
LOS ANGELES, CA
Specialties
Criminal Defense, DUI, Juvenile, Domestic Violence, Violent Crime
Education
Loyola Marymont,University of California - Los Angeles
State Licensing
California

Violence Against Women

Group of Women

Prevailing myths about intimate-partner violence often encourage denial about abusive situations and prevent women from getting the help they need. Remember: Domestic violence can happen in any type of relationship, income level, environment or culture. Common myths associated with domestic and intimate partner violence include:

  • Myth: Family violence is rare. Truth: Although statistics on family violence are not precise, it's clear that millions of children, women and even men are abused physically by family members and their closest relations or partners.

  • Myth: Family violence is confined to the lower classes. Truth: Reports from police records, victim services and academic studies show domestic violence exists in every socioeconomic group, regardless of race or culture.

  • Myth: Alcohol and drug abuse are the real causes of violence in the home. Truth: Because many male batterers also abuse alcohol and other drugs, it's easy to conclude that these substances may cause domestic violence. Substance abuse increases the risk for and lethality of the violence. But for some men, battering begins when they come off of drugs and other substances. Substance use and abuse are not excuses for a batterer's behavior or for his failure to take responsibility for his behavior, however. In addition, successful completion of a drug treatment program does not guarantee an end to battering. Domestic violence and substance abuse are two different problems that both require treatment.

  • Myth: Battered wives like being hit, otherwise they would leave…Truth: The most common response to battering—"Why doesn't she just leave?"—ignores the economic and social realities facing many women. Shelters are often full; and family, friends and the workplace are frequently less than supportive. Faced with rent and utility deposits, day care, health insurance and other basic expenses, the woman may feel that she cannot support herself and her children. Moreover, in some instances, the woman may be increasing the chance of physical harm, death or losing her children if she leaves an abusive partner.

Are you in an abusive or potentially abusive relationship? Here are some questions to ask yourself about how you are being treated by your partner and how you treat your partner.

Does your partner:

  • Embarrass or make fun of you in front of your friends or family?

  • Put down your accomplishments or goals?

  • Criticize you for little things?

  • Constantly accuse you of being unfaithful?

  • Control your use of needed medicines?

  • Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions?

  • Use intimidation or threats to gain compliance?

  • Tell you that you are nothing without him or her?

  • Control how you spend money?

  • Treat you roughly—grab, push, pinch, shove or hit you?

  • Call you several times a night or show up to make sure you are where you said you would be?

  • Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things or abusing you?

  • Blame you for how he or she feels or acts?

  • Pressure you sexually for things you aren't ready for?

  • Make you feel like there "is no way out" of the relationship?

  • Destroy your property or things you care about?

  • Prevent you from doing the things you want, like spending time with your friends or family?

  • Try to keep you from leaving after a fight or leave you somewhere after a fight to "teach you a lesson?"

Do you:

  • Sometimes feel scared of how your partner will act?

  • Constantly make excuses to other people for your partner's behavior?

  • Believe that you can help your partner change if only you changed something about yourself?

  • Try not to do anything that would cause conflict or make your partner angry?

  • Feel like no matter what you do, your partner is never happy with you?

  • Always do what your partner wants you to do instead of what you want?

  • Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what your partner would do if you broke up?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may be in an abusive or potentially abusive relationship. If you do not seek help, the abuse will continue.

Ultimately, you can take the first step toward getting help by confiding in your health care professional. If you find yourself in a health care professional's office, an emergency room or clinic for treatment as a result of abuse, take the opportunity to talk to the health care professional about why you're there. Today, many health care professionals are trained to notice signs and symptoms of abuse, and they know how to help you. It might be up to you, however, to bring up the topic.

For the rest of this article, questions to ask your health care professional, information on treatment, prevention and more, click here.

Author: Editorial Staff of the National Women's Health Resource Center